Military marriage retreats are not something I thought I would get the pleasure of experiencing. After a conversation with my Grandfather, my husband signed us up. I must say, thank you Papa. It was a great learning event!
Even the strongest of marriages need a refresher course and a chance to reconnect. We as human beings change 50-70% every 5-7 years. We morph, change, mature, and just become quite different people. No matter how long you as a couple have been together, you are each growing individually. What this retreat gave me was the knowledge of growing together as well. Talking plus togetherness plus time is equal to knowing each other on a deeper level.
Getting a chance to carve out regular time and making that a priority is imperative to a balancing life. Life is never going to be balanced, but we can at least have a teeter-tottered balancing life. Even if you can only make it ten minutes on Tuesday evenings, make that your show. Your ten minutes for connection and togetherness. It is normal to have your routine disrupted and to become out of balance. It is only when you stop adjusting and balancing your relationship that those little disruptions become long-term ruts. Every romance will have mountain top highs and valley lows, it is the reunion with your safe person, it is your show that makes every moment worth it.
Find ways to show appreciation to your spouse, another great tip. Find the little things that make them smile and remember that you are partners for life. Love your spouse the way they want to be loved. Physically, cheerful interactions, food, cleaning, being left alone for ten minutes after a stressful day, empathy, being prioritized, help, fun surprises, etc. You are in this for the long-haul, so create a strong footing and solid foundation.
Ten Topics To Discuss with Your Partner
- Unstructured Time
Using a ten point scale, rate where you think your relationship is with each topic. Discuss where you both put yourselves on the scale and where you want to be. The laughter that erupts is great. Talk about what each topic means to you. Talk about anything and everything that comes to mind. It is great to find those sporadic conversations again.
Regardless if you have been married one week or twenty years, take the time to deeply learn about your better half. Never stop learning Y’all!~