No Base, No Problem: Making the Most of Military Life on Recruiting Duty

Stationed somewhere with no base in sight? You’re not alone. Here’s how I learned to thrive during recruiting duty in a city with no built-in military community—and how you can too.

Listen, when my husband received recruiting orders to Miami a few months ago, I expected a typical military experience—base housing, built-in community, and all the comforts of life on base. Instead, I found myself in a bustling civilian city with no base for hours! To my surprise, there were no familiar places like the Commissary or Exchange, no military neighbors, no spouse groups and no welcome orientation. At first, it felt isolating—like we were living two separate lives: military during the day, civilian at night.

Adjusting to this new norm wasn’t just about logistics—it was emotional. I missed the unspoken bond that comes with being surrounded by other military families who just get it. There were moments I felt completely disconnected and unsure of where to turn for support. However, like most military spouses, I’ve learned that if you can’t find community, you create it.

So, that’s what I did! I joined a few local Facebook groups for South Florida moms and made some new girlfriends…there is a Whatsapp group for EVERYTHING here…lol. I also connected with other spouses at the nearest base, even though it was hours away. Church became a big part of our lives, giving us structure and new friendships. I started saying “yes” more—yes to coffee meetups, trying new restaurants, and conversations with strangers that’s leading to something more.

Then, we embraced the adventure. Miami may not have a base, but it definitely has personality. We discovered a new rhythm through beach days, street festivals, and trying foods from around the world. Our kids got to explore a city full of culture and life. It was different, but in the best possible way.

Even without a base, we stay grounded in the military lifestyle. Whether it’s through virtual spouse groups, joining United Way, volunteering in the veteran community, or simply sharing our journey online, we’re still connected. In fact, sharing this experience has helped me connect with other spouses who feel like they’re in the same boat—on duty, but off base.

3 Tips for Spouses Navigating Life Without a Base:

• Be proactive about connection. Don’t wait for a community—create one. Start with local groups, school events, or faith-based gatherings.
• Explore your surroundings. Treat your new city like an adventure. Try local restaurants, find parks, and create new family traditions.
• Stay plugged into military life. Join virtual spouse networks, celebrate military milestones, and don’t be afraid to reach out to others living a similar experience.

Recruiting duty may not come with the traditional comforts of military life, but it’s taught us how to create home wherever we are. To be honest, the most unexpected duty stations can become the ones that shape us the most.

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